Hi I’m Joscelyn, a recovering codependent, people-pleaser, and perfectionist turned Master Mindfulness Practitioner, Trauma-Informed Yoga Instructor, and Certified Ritual Guide. I help people let go of toxic habits, situations, and relationships. Check out past editions and sign up below.
How to be Wrong and Recover
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Defensiveness is two people pointing weapons at each other, one must put theirs down first for anyone to start feeling safe. PERSPECTIVE SHIFTSLast week I shared a story on threads and talked about both my experience in couples counseling and sharing that story with other people. I had to admit that I was wrong in order to move forward in my relationship. My husband also had work to do, but that was his business and his choice. My work was to see where I was holding up a weapon and choose to put it down. This is a vulnerable position to take. One of the pieces I talk about in the latest episode of my podcast is fearing people taking advantage of us when we put down the weapon and release ourselves to vulnerability. REFLECT: Do you feel safe being vulnerable? Do you sense your own defensiveness or can you witness it in others, as a self-protection method? BEHAVIOR SHIFTSAdmitting that we're wrong usually takes less words than we think. Often times when we're trying to reconcile, we want to give a lot of context to our decision-making processes so the other person doesn't villainize or demonize us for missteps or under-grown behavior. We may feel that more words will help but instead they begin to sound like justifications, excuses, or defenses. TRY: The next time you're wrong and you want to admit fault say less. Use as few words as possible and instead focus on understanding and validating the experience of the other person. THIS WEEK FROM TMLReady to build yourself up? Check out these articles 👇🏻
✨NEW EPISODE✨ In this week's episode of The Pursuit of You podcast I start answering some questions and comments from my mini-viral thread. (Read the thread here) Go check out the thread and please add your questions and comments! I'll be discussing all throughout the month of July in each episode of the podcast. Thank you so much for being here. I hope this was helpful for you and I'd love to hear your feedback! Let me know how this perspective or behavior shift helps. And don't forget to check out TML's Favorites to find all the latest on my book reviews and product recommendations to bring you more peace of mind. 🫶🏻 You are accepted exactly as you are, don't forget it. In warmth & growth, p.s. Check out TML's Yoga section for more on Oracle Card Readings, Yoga in-person and via zoom, guided meditations and more. |
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Hi I’m Joscelyn, a recovering codependent, people-pleaser, and perfectionist turned Master Mindfulness Practitioner, Trauma-Informed Yoga Instructor, and Certified Ritual Guide. I help people let go of toxic habits, situations, and relationships. Check out past editions and sign up below.
Reader, I know you're super busy and probably stressed so I'll keep this short. Rituals are simply practices or behaviors that allow us to shift our energy, intentionally. You may already have rituals present in your life; putting on your sunglasses and turning on the radio when you're getting ready to drive. This practice helps you get into driving mode. Or maybe when you wake up everyday, you go into the bathroom and wash your face, brush your hair, and put on deodorant. This is a waking...
Hey Reader, How are you? How are you really doing? I know this is a stressful time of year. And on top of the stress, this time is really emotionally charged, lots of expectations, and it can be hard to feel centered. During these high-pressure seasons, I never can seem to calm all the way down. It's like a constant and ongoing buzz of what I may forget, mess up, or miss out on. Can you relate? This happens to so many people, especially women, so I wanted to share with you my top 3 tips to...
hey Reader, If you're in the US, you know tomorrow is Election Day. I won't get into the details but let's just say it's a stressful time and we could all use some connection and reassurance. I wanted to share my most recent Pick-a-Card reading with you, it's for this week Nov. 4 - Nov. 9. I included a section at the bottom of each reading addressing the election and your mental health. I hope you'll check it out and let me know if this reading resonated with you. Also, I have a new episode...