Hey Reader, How are you? How are you really doing? I know this is a stressful time of year. And on top of the stress, this time is really emotionally charged, lots of expectations, and it can be hard to feel centered. During these high-pressure seasons, I never can seem to calm all the way down. It's like a constant and ongoing buzz of what I may forget, mess up, or miss out on. Can you relate? This happens to so many people, especially women, so I wanted to share with you my top 3 tips to...
21 days ago • 1 min read
hey Reader, If you're in the US, you know tomorrow is Election Day. I won't get into the details but let's just say it's a stressful time and we could all use some connection and reassurance. I wanted to share my most recent Pick-a-Card reading with you, it's for this week Nov. 4 - Nov. 9. I included a section at the bottom of each reading addressing the election and your mental health. I hope you'll check it out and let me know if this reading resonated with you. Also, I have a new episode...
about 2 months ago • 1 min read
hey Reader, Happy Monday! I don't normally send emails on Mondays but I had a few things I wanted to share with you. We are coming into the holiday season and regardless of what or how you celebrate, these upcoming months can be really stressful. People's tempers are high, finances are tight, patience is low, and emotions are maxed out. It can be hard to stay grounded so I wanted to reach out, reconnect, and share some perspectives. Hopefully we can connect on a few things and keep each other...
2 months ago • 2 min read
Defensiveness is two people pointing weapons at each other, one must put theirs down first for anyone to start feeling safe. PERSPECTIVE SHIFTS Last week I shared a story on threads and talked about both my experience in couples counseling and sharing that story with other people. I had to admit that I was wrong in order to move forward in my relationship. My husband also had work to do, but that was his business and his choice. My work was to see where I was holding up a weapon and choose to...
6 months ago • 1 min read
The first step to turning an unhealthy relationship into a healthy one is taking care of yourself. PERSPECTIVE SHIFTS I recently shared a story on threads about my husband and I in couples counseling. In the story, I talked about how I thought I had our problem all figured out but I was wrong. Something I didn't expect from sharing that story, was how many people would commend me for admitting my fault and taking accountability. I realized what a strength it is to admit being wrong and how...
7 months ago • 2 min read
Expressing your thoughts and feelings will feel like a burden if you're overly concerned with how it makes someone else feel. PERSPECTIVE SHIFTS When you're made to feel like you're too hot to handle, you're more likely to withhold your true thoughts and feelings. People often use a tactic I call The Hot Potato Game to make someone else feel like they're "too much" to avoid rejection or to not deal with feelings. If you've been made to feel like you're being too serious or you can't take a...
7 months ago • 2 min read
"The health of any relationship depends greatly on communication and met needs." PERSPECTIVE A non-seeker is someone who is not trying to understand you but is rather challenging you to get them to understand. It may feel like they're being evasive even when they're presenting as trying to understand. When you encounter a non-seeker you can see them as needing help or as using a tactic to avoid an exchange of empathy. Understanding is like climbing a mountain. You won't reach the top...
7 months ago • 2 min read
PERSPECTIVE ADJUSTMENT Empathy may seem like a simple way to connect but empathizing is as physically exhausting as running. Consider how tired you feel after trying to understand or help another person this week. How could you have helped, supported, or offered guidance without extending empathy? JOURNAL: Do you believe it's ever ok to withhold empathy from someone? Why or why not? There are people who will try to access your empathy without your consent. In my book, Unraveling the Human...
8 months ago • 1 min read
Reader, I hope your 2024 is off to an amazing start. If not, don't worry, New Year, More YOU! starts today! We're going to begin with a commitment to self and uncover the why behind being open to changes at this time. Check out the schedule below. Join the Facebook group here 👉🏻 https://www.facebook.com/groups/709391317715880/ Monday | Jan 8, 2024 9am EST ✨ COMMITMENT TO SELF ✨10am EST Kristi Santilli - Professional Organizer 12pm EST Jen Liss - Unleash Your Unique Brilliance Breathwork 1pm...
12 months ago • 1 min read