Hi I’m Joscelyn, a recovering codependent, people-pleaser, and perfectionist turned Master Mindfulness Practitioner, Trauma-Informed Yoga Instructor, and Certified Ritual Guide. I help people let go of toxic habits, situations, and relationships. Check out past editions and sign up below.
Small Shifts to Protect Your Energy
PERSPECTIVE ADJUSTMENTEmpathy may seem like a simple way to connect but empathizing is as physically exhausting as running. Consider how tired you feel after trying to understand or help another person this week. How could you have helped, supported, or offered guidance without extending empathy? JOURNAL: Do you believe it's ever ok to withhold empathy from someone? Why or why not? There are people who will try to access your empathy without your consent. In my book, Unraveling the Human Experience, I call this the "non-consensual extraction of empathy." If you feel that someone is trying to make you feel bad, I want to let you know, you have the right to refuse. They may try to use their judgment to force your extension of empathy, but you still don't have to give in. REFLECT: See how it feels this week to refuse a non-consensual extraction of empathy. I'd love to hear your experience. CHANGED BEHAVIORThe first thing anyone wants to do when they feel tired is rest. It makes sense that after working, taking care of your home, your family, your pets, and whatever other responsibilities you have, that all you want to do is sit. But most of the energy we expend that leads to exhaustion is intellectual. Our constant thinking, planning, preparing, and recovering, are the biggest factors depleting our energy. TRY: Use physical activity this week to quiet your thoughts. Take a 30 minute walk or try 15 jumping jacks in your living room. Notice how your thoughts quiet down after you've finished the activity. NEW FROM TML
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Hi I’m Joscelyn, a recovering codependent, people-pleaser, and perfectionist turned Master Mindfulness Practitioner, Trauma-Informed Yoga Instructor, and Certified Ritual Guide. I help people let go of toxic habits, situations, and relationships. Check out past editions and sign up below.
Reader, I know you're super busy and probably stressed so I'll keep this short. Rituals are simply practices or behaviors that allow us to shift our energy, intentionally. You may already have rituals present in your life; putting on your sunglasses and turning on the radio when you're getting ready to drive. This practice helps you get into driving mode. Or maybe when you wake up everyday, you go into the bathroom and wash your face, brush your hair, and put on deodorant. This is a waking...
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hey Reader, If you're in the US, you know tomorrow is Election Day. I won't get into the details but let's just say it's a stressful time and we could all use some connection and reassurance. I wanted to share my most recent Pick-a-Card reading with you, it's for this week Nov. 4 - Nov. 9. I included a section at the bottom of each reading addressing the election and your mental health. I hope you'll check it out and let me know if this reading resonated with you. Also, I have a new episode...